By Brianna Wiest Sep. It's never oove that really makes people suffer Namely: our future happiness. The funny thing is that everybody loses someone they think is "The One," at one point or another. It's never about whether or not you find "The One" but whether or not you're looking.
But no matter whether the one lasts for a week, for two years or for 30 — "The One" is not forever. Marriages end, people die. Life is transitory.
The thing is that you can't wait for some pre-prescribed idea of a person over letting yourself try and feel and see what works. The people who wait are the ones who get hurt, because they get attached to an everyyhing of one person. We're inclined to think that everyone is the right person for us — otherwise we probably wouldn't be dating them.
Don't feel bad if you have to go through five relationships that you think are "it" until you actually, you know, find the right one. It's Your Attachment To An Idea That Hurts The Most If you're still scrambling for reasons why you'll get back together, why things have to work out, if you're still holding onto little "s" and comments they made as proof, if you're searching for some existential evidence that they are fated to be your partner People only have to do that when they know that they definitely aren't meant to be with someone.
If live confident about your relationship, you don't have to seek proof. The reality is cold and hard and worth it. Be able to face your heartbreak, don't let it drag out for as long as you can go.
You Must Rebuild Your Life Some people wouldn't agree with this, but I believe it wholeheartedly: if you want to get past a relationship, especially one that all but defined your life, you must change it completely. If you are truly suffering over the loss of someone, you have to build a new life without them in it This may seem as though I'm suggesting you should change your life based on whether or not someone is in it, but it's really more that you should change your life when it's time to move on.
Nobody stays anywhere for long.
What we need to remember is that failure is not final, and we cannot let ourselves be defined by circumstances. We must believe in ourselves. An unwavering faith in good things to happen and a belief in yourself to continue on is all people need to fight on.
As Steve Jobs put it, You can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking yok. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. The world will talk about what you did and how you impacted the universe, but most importantly, people will talk about the person you decided to be and how you lived your life.
They say character is who you are when nobody is around, but I'd like to think it's who you are all of the time. Whom we choose to be is tested constantly, whether in private or public. So, really, character is how you live your life on and off the stage. The reason why we never lose our sense of character is because when character is lost, we really have nothing.
What will people say about you when you're gone? I've never heard anyone say, "Oh, he drove a Ferrari before he died," or "She lived in an enormous beach house for her entire everythibg when speaking about the kind of life one lived.
The kind of things you will hear will go something like this: "He never let me down," or "He worked his ass off for that Ferrari," or "She risked everything for that business so she could eventually get that house. Character is essentially who you are and how you choose to treat people. It's what people will remember after you're gone.
The ups and downs of life are tough. We wake up one day happy as ever and the next day, we've lost all hope in our goals. eveyrthing
What's left is how much faith we choose to have in ourselves. Once that's gone, there's pretty much no effort to move forward with anything. Remember, we cannot lose faith in ourselves. It's all that's left when we lose everything. Ultimately, people will reflect more on who you eevrything as a person, rather than what you had.
